Monday, July 4, 2011

A good comment deserves a good answer...

Admittedly, I have not yet finished your archives, but I was wondering about the limited intercourse. Obviously, preferences vary greatly. In this case, though, does Mistress R prefer other activities to intercourse? Do you need to frequently use implements, for her, to make up for the lack of penetration? Or is she content to go without the penetration and enjoy other stimulation?
By goodhubby on Much as expected... at 16:39

Well, I started to answer this question in the comment box but then decided that it would actually make an excellent post, so here I am when I really should be writing my book! Actually it's probably as well that I did because, on second reading I notice that Goodhubby's question is not as well balanced as I thought... nevertheless I shall continue...
Hmm, where to begin. Well, the short answer to the question is simply that for the most part Mistress R is content to go without penetration and enjoy other stimulation. Which is not to say that she doesn't enjoy penetration sometimes, after all the G-Spot massager kindly provided by Eden Fantasys did the trick nicely (although it was only playing a supporting role to my tongue) and Mistress R loves her glass dildo (though as far as I know it only comes out of the packet once a month during our Femdom session).
The truth is I do not really know as we have never seriously discussed this. I cannot actually remember whether it (the no asking rule) was totally her idea or whether it was something that I asked and she decided on, but I do remember her being very keen on the idea. With that in mind, I can only surmise that Mistress R is entirely satisfied with the limited amount of penetration she receives, since she is the one with the power to have it whenever she wants it, I mean it's not like I would turn the opportunity down, is it?
As for me, well since you asked (!) I must confess that when I agreed to this rule I didn't anticipate quite how dramatic the change would be. But, though it confuses me greatly, I am not unhappy with the way it has turned out. Of course I love being inside her, but I also love to long for it... and I am a tremendously 'oral' person, I love to use my tongue on my Mistress's pussy (and ass) and I derive a huge amount of pleasure from doing that and from bringing Mistress to climax. 
I think, maybe, as you get older you become less... bothered about what you think you should be doing and more bothered about doing what you actually like. It's not uncommon for women to be ambivalent about penetration or to require a lot less of it than men, and the truth is I would rather be allowed inside Mistress once a month when she really wants it, than twice a week as an obligation. I think what Mistress has done is take control of what she wants, and that's what this is supposed to be about isn't it?
At the same time I feel that everything that is said about orgasm denial can be equally applied to the sensation of penetration. I was married at 23 and for 18 years I never went more than a week or so (give or take a couple of periods of illness) without it, but being made to wait weeks for it (especially when there's no reason for it other than that your Mistress gets to decide) teaches you to appreciate it when it happens, just like chastity teaches you to appreciate your orgasms. I can't even begin to tell you how good it feels to be inside your wife when you've waited a month for it...
Of course, being a bloke, you can't help but wonder why it is that your wife can seemingly exist for weeks at a time without wanting to ride that throbbing tower of manly gristle, and it's all too easy for those thoughts to turn to self-criticism. Surely, if only I had another couple of inches then she wouldn't be able to resist it, would she? 
Maybe, maybe not. I'm sticking with not, for the good of my sanity. Truth is for all the porn on the internet I know I am practically bang on Mr Average, and besides, you've got what you've got, so where's the use in thinking like that? And more to the point, Mistress R actually purchased a larger glass dildo a while back, and you know what, it really wasn't that comfortable and I don't think she's even tried it again. Moreover, the one she loves is, well about the size of my cock I should say (well a little bit longer, I suppose), now maybe if I can work out how to attach some 'ridges' to my cock we might be in business!

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